The impact of porn on men has been studied, but little is known about how it could affect women. Between the ages of 11 and 16, Neelam watched porn most days. She quickly got over that initial shock. She wasn't alone. For Neelam, it started with a simple curiosity about sex. As Neelam became more well-versed in the kinds of videos that were available, she began to develop certain tastes. It just felt like I was satisfying a need. I remember how quickly I got desensitised to it — 10 men and one woman, orgies that were basically a writhing mass of bodies, women being slapped or otherwise humiliated — and I was accessing all this before I had even had sex. I still watch it, though not as much, but I do think that after using it regularly for more than 10 years, I now find it difficult to orgasm without some higher level of stimulation, like a vibrator. Or more porn.
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I tried to do it late at night when I thought everyone was asleep. My daughter now thinks I'm a pervert. Click here to log in. If you're a print subscriber, but do not yet have an online account, click here to create one. If you aren't yet a subscriber, click here to start a new subscription. Her mother raised her with conservative beliefs about any expression of sexuality. I'm worried about her ability to make a future marriage work, and I want the wonderful relationship we shared back.
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Both Peggy Orenstein and Cara Natterson have children who — deliberately, I assume — are mentioned only occasionally in their excellent books about raising better boys. Instead, Orenstein relies on the revealing and sometimes painfully intimate interviews she conducted over the course of two years with boys aged 16 to 22, and Natterson draws from years of practical experience as a pediatrician, and her ability to boil down complicated scientific studies to their tablespoon of curative parental medicine. But the personal stakes for both authors are clear, and urgent.
Please refresh the page and retry. More than half of children have encountered porn by the age of 11 to 13 and almost a fifth 18 per cent of them told researchers they intentionally sought it out, according to the biggest study of its kind by the British Board of Film Classification BBFC. Children said porn had changed their attitude towards sex and distorted their attitudes to consent so they did not believe it was necessary to ask or discuss whether to have sex. More than 40 per cent agreed that watching porn made people less respectful of the opposite sex. Parents are, however, in the dark. While three quarters 75 per cent claimed their child had not seen porn online, 53 per cent of their own children said they had viewed it. Parents were less likely to suspect their daughters viewed porn - just 17 per cent - even though similar proportions of boys as girls watched it, 68 per cent versus 58 per cent, according to the survey of 2, children and their parents by researchers Revealing Reality. David Austin, BBFC chief executive, said the ease of access to porn was in danger of normalising it for children, with 18 per cent of 11 to 13 year olds and more than a third of 14 to 17 year olds saying the had viewed porn in the past fortnight. M r Austin said the research would provide a baseline against which to assess the effectiveness of the compulsory age checks. It showed that most children were accessing porn through the main commercial sites, which were being targeted by the new age check laws.
