Before we start, let's be clear this story contains adult content and themes. Got it? Question: I like really kinky sex that's rough, but my boyfriend only likes romantic sex. I find it hard to get turned on and it becomes boring, and I find I don't look forward to it. How do I find a middle ground with him, while still respecting his boundaries? Answer: Thank you for writing in with this question. You are not alone, it's one that is posed to me quite often. Firstly I wonder if you have spoken about your desires? Things like this can be difficult to articulate and talk about. Many people fear judgment when they want to talk about things that they like or would be interested in trying out.

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Sharing the most intimate details of your sex life is still largely taboo. The truth is that at least some of your friends have probably tried it — and one out of five make it part of their regular play in the bedroom. According to the Sexual Exploration in America Study , more than 22 percent of sexually active adults engage in role-playing, while more than 20 percent have engaged in being tied up and spanking. Perhaps more surprising? Hear the science out first: Kinky sex could help you feel better and be more mentally healthy. A study found that both dominant and submissive practitioners of BDSM were:. They also had higher subjective well-being compared to the control group. This could mean two things: That people with these traits are attracted to kinky sex, or that kinky sex can help you grow and gain confidence. But the latter is very probable, especially as we research more about the effects of kinky sex.
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Having no predetermined sexual script looming over you gives you the freedom to do whatever the f works for you. With vulva to vulva non bonery, you also have a slight home court advantage of knowing your way around the equipment, since you've got similar stuff going on between your legs. And if you don't happen to possess a vulva sorry, mate , you can still use some of these tips to get a few ideas about what kinds of things a woman might like.
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